Meet Tara. Tara was Miss Tennessee 2005 and competed in the Miss America Pageant in 2006.
Tara wanted to lose 10 pounds but most importantly change her relationship with food. The way she had lost weight in the past wasn’t sustainable so she was constantly yo-yoing. She had tried everything. It would work…until it didn’t. Tara wanted to feel in control around food. She felt as though she was always relying on so much willpower “to be good”. She wanted something more natural and sustainable.
THE ACTION PLAN:
One of the reasons why our clients are able to keep the weight off is because we help them change their relationship with food. We help them change the way they think and react to food. This is exactly what we did with Tara. We helped her develop a completely new mindset.
What many people don’t realize is that fitness is a skill. It can be taught. Everyone thinks they know how to lose weight…
“Just eat less and exercise more!” is the common nonsensical advice. Ugh!
The problem with “just eating less and exercising more” is that it relies solely on willpower. You can only force yourself to “be good” for so long.
If the only thing you’re changing is the food you’re eating, you’re not going to change for the long term.
Who do you think has a better chance of losing weight and keeping it off?
The person who relies on willpower and is holding on by the skin of their teeth…or the person who changes their mindset around food and learns and develops the right behaviors and habits so they don’t have to rely on willpower anymore?
HERE’S WHAT TARA HAD TO SAY ABOUT HER EXPERIENCE WITH MBT:
(Click on the video below to hear Tara’s story)
(Click the video above to hear Tara talk about her experience with MBT. You can also click here.)
HERE’S WHY MBT WORKED FOR HER (in her words):
When I was at the beach last summer I made a decision: it was time to stop wishing that I could lose ten pounds and actually do it. I was a yo-yo dieter for ten years, until I began the MyBodyTutor program. After my freshman year of college, I started losing weight for the swimsuit competition in the Miss America Pageant. When I lost 15 pounds on the South Beach Diet, I thought I had found the answer.
But then I also started losing my hair, my appetite for life, and my energy. I was always hungry, and never felt truly satiated. I tried every diet and fad under the sun: Weight Watchers, Veganism, Vegetarianism, raw food, etc.
I was tired of wasting my mental and physical energy on dieting when all I really wanted was to live a happy and fulfilled life!
Several of my friends told me about MyBodyTutor and the success they had experienced with Adam’s program. I knew I needed to do it. I just had that feeling, and if you are reading this, you probably do too. I felt like I had nothing to lose and for $250, I would get personal feedback on everything I ate, suggestions on how to improve my diet, strategies and encouragement daily.
MyBodyTutor changed my life. Not only did I lose ten pounds and reach my goal, I reclaimed my sense of control over the choices I was making every day, which in turn helped me become a more positive person. I started dreaming and setting goals again. I became empowered. Food no longer controlled me, and I could enjoy indulgences without feeling guilty.
If you are on the fence, let me try to push you over and start a new chapter. Yes you will start to feel better immediately, but the lasting effects of this program will also transform the way you live your life. Imagine the healthy, happy YOU that you daydream about. Imagine yourself a success story. Give MyBodyTutor a chance, and give yourself the lasting gift of a new beginning. You won’t regret it.
Love and Success,
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There will always be a reason to delay action when it comes to our health and fitness…
Do you know one of the many reasons why some people don’t start the journey of getting healthier and more fit?
I’m not going to give you the answer right away. That wouldn’t be fun! : )
First, I’m going to ask you some questions:
1) How long did it take you to graduate high school?
2) How about college?
Getting healthy and fit and creating healthy habits isn’t an overnight process. Nor is it a week-long process.
Yet, how come for so many other things in our lives we don’t question how long it’s going to take?
After all, this is YOU we’re talking about here.
Here’s another question:
How long did it take us to get out of shape? I know we can all agree it was longer than 4 days.
I GET IT…
We all want instant gratification.
Hmm…but what does gratification even mean in this case?
I think what we’re after is results aka weight loss…
However, if we live and die by the scale, we’re completely forgetting about how we feel, how our clothes look, our increased ability to move around and on and on and on and on.
Instead, if we focus….OBSESS! (the way we do with the number on the scale) on how much better it feels to eat well and exercise — and we know that 99 times out of 100 it really does feel better — the gratification becomes feeling awesome!
Weight loss becomes a wonderful side effect.
If we focus on the day to day wins, it becomes a lot easier to string together a long line of wins which, of course = consistency. And consistency (so long as we’re doing the right things) always leads to results. (Of course consistency is the hard part! Here’s three reasons why it’s so hard and what to do about it.)
Every small win adds up.
Besides, we’re not really after weight loss. We’re after fat loss.
Back to my original question: Do you know one of the many reasons why some people don’t start the journey of getting healthier and more fit?
Because they think it will take too long to lose all of the weight.
Let’s never give up on a worthwhile pursuit because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway. We might as well put it to good use.
The homo economicus view of human beings states that we think and choose unfailingly well, and we fit within the text book picture of economists.
According to economists we will always choose what’s best for us.
LOL! Do they live in this world?!
Clearly, this is not the case.
Research in psychology and behavioral economics proves we are very irrational creatures.
On one hand (I like to call this our long term self / rational mind) we know what’s best for us. We know we shouldn’t overeat, and skip exercise.
On the other hand (I like to call this our short term self / irrational mind) we’re highly impulsive and succumb to temptations all the time.
A temptation then is anything we consume more of when we’re irrational.
My definition of a temptation is simple: anything that makes us think irrationally.
Here’s the challenge: Right now I feel pretty good. No cravings. I plan on exercising in a bit, and I feel focused and on point.
However, in a few hours I might feel tired. Being tired helps our irrational mind get louder. So does being hungry. So does being stressed.
Research has proven (I’m confident we don’t need research to prove this) we grossly underestimate how we’ll feel and act when we’re tempted – which in turn, wakes up the irrational part of our brain.
This is known as the hot-cold empathy gap for all my nerds. Ayo!
That means when we’re focused and thinking rationally and long term minded we absolutely underestimate just how irrational and short term minded we can and will become – because we’re so rational and focused in that moment.
Right now, junk food isn’t in front of me. I’m thinking rationally. I’m good to go…
BUT, if you put my favorite treats in front of me (I’m not even going to write them) it would be an entirely different ball game.
A few lessons can be learned:
1. Don’t have any temptations near you. In your house, car, desk, whatever. Sounds obvious but it’s amazing how many people keep junk around. It is always better to avoid the dragon than slay it when it comes to food. Don’t want to slip? Don’t go where it’s slippery.
2. Tell your loved ones / friends / etc., that you’re on a mission and that you’d appreciate if they didn’t bring you your favorite treats or keep them around.
3. Protect yourself from getting irrational. Remember: Hungry (eating every 3-4 hours), tired (sleeping 7 hours, and counter-intuitively, exercising – exercise gives us energy), and anxious (figuring out what’s really bothering us, and choosing to bother with it) are the 3 killers.
4. Don’t go where there will be temptations! “Thanks, Captain Obvious!” (Hey, just because it’s common sense doesn’t mean it’s common practice. Besides, the best advice always sounds like common sense because it’s actually practical.)
Sometimes we can’t control this but many times we can. A client just told me how she read an article about cookies this morning. Guess what?? All day long she’s been thinking about cookies!! Why do that to ourselves?
If we’ve decided that the indulgences at the party we’re going to isn’t worth it…why bother even looking?
If we’ve decided that we don’t want to eat the indulgences in the kitchen at home or at work…why bother even looking?
If we’ve decided that we don’t want to buy anything from the vending machine…why bother even looking?
If we’ve decided that we’re done eating for the night after dinner…why bother even going into the kitchen after dinner?
Don’t underestimate how hot you can really get.
But see, right now, we’re cold so we’ll rationalize and say things like “Na, I’m good! I’ll be fine!”
Remember: #3 above, and let’s protect ourselves.
P.S. Do you find yourself saying, “Yes!” to any and all invitations. Do you find yourself taking on too much and feeling overwhelmed?
Tip: Before you commit to an event imagine it happening this week. Your future self will thank you.
Again, this is our short term selves trying to convince our long term selves we’re less busy than we actually are. If we’re usually up to our head with things to do, why would the future be any different?
This is the same thing as resolution-ers thinking this will be the year they finally change without changing anything. Not us. Oh not us MBT-ers! We have a system of support and accountability to protect ourselves from ourselves.
Saturday marked 19 years since Larry LaPrise passed away. He was the man who wrote the “Hokey Pokey”. He died peacefully in April of 1996.
Of course, the most traumatic part for his family was getting him into the coffin. They put his left leg in, and then the trouble started…
In all seriousness, I think a little (or a lot of) goofiness is important. A little (or a lot) of fun is important too. After all, that’s what this is all about. Loving the way we look and feel is way more fun than the alternative.
It’s interesting, whenever I hang out with my two adorable nephews (Landon and Myles), I always ask them, “Are you having fun?” All I care about is if they’re having fun. I hear others ask the same question frequently too.
I’ve already started asking my son Zachary that question too. “Having fun buddy?” (I’m not sure he understands just yet!)
When was the last time we asked ourselves, “Am I having fun?”
When was the last time we scheduled fun for ourselves?
We schedule so many things for ourselves. Appointments, meetings, you name it. But what about fun?
Tension relief is one of the top reasons we eat and/or indulge. Something is causing us to feel tense so we seek to relieve it. Usually, with food and/or drink.
In psychology there is a term known as the inner child. If our inner child is neglected, it finds a way to act out. Again, in our case it’s usually with indulgent food.
As we get older, we find less things fun. We have less time for fun as well. We just don’t make it a priority.
This leads to burn out. : (
I often ask what people are doing for fun. It might sound trite but there’s a real reason: The more fun we have, the less we’ll rely on food and drink for fun. The less we’ll feel compelled to eat indulgently.
As we get older, we have less outlets for true fun.
So here’s my question to you: What do you do for fun?
No idea? What did you love doing when you were a kid. What did you do for hours at a time? Maybe you can do exactly that. Maybe you can do a more advanced version of it?
It’s seriously worth thinking about it. Like focusing on our diet/exercise, scheduling more fun, and actually having more fun, is truly a worthwhile investment that pays countless dividends in our quality of life.
It’s always fun when MBT-ers tell me they rediscovered their love for something. In turn, their desire to eat indulgently goes down, which helps us to eat better. That means we’ll look and feel better and that’s surely fun! : )
P.S. Like this post? Feel free to share it with those you want to have some more fun with.
P.P.S. Those who are wondering what this has to do with weight loss are missing the point. Sure, tactics matter. But if food is your only fun, it’s going to be a lot harder to improve your diet. One of the many reasons why we get such amazing results for our clients IS because we take such a holistic approach. Weight loss isn’t just about “eating these 10 magic foods”. If it were, we’d all be in great shape. Everything impacts everything.
Once in a while when I talk with someone who doesn’t appear to be healthy and fit, they’ll say something like: “You know, I only live once. We’re all going to die anyway so what’s the point of my weight loss efforts? Why not enjoy now?!”
There is a reason they are saying this, and it’s not as obvious as you might think. I’ll go into that next week.
Instead, let’s tackle head on the point of us only living once so what’s the point of our weight loss efforts…
I talk and write a lot about our short term/irrational mind versus our long term/rational mind. Our long term/rational mind is where our dreams and desires are. Our short term/irrational mind doesn’t care about the future. It wants pleasure…and it wants it NOW!
Our short term mind is constantly sabotaging us in the form of thoughts like, “You deserve this cookie, go for it. You only live once! (YOLO)” “Why bother exercising?” “Don’t you want to be happy now?” “You work so hard!”
Here’s the challenge we all wrestle with: Balancing living for tomorrow with living for today.
The reason why I’ve been able to stick with MBT since February of 2007 is because I truly believe in what we’re doing, and I know what we offer works better than anything else out there. My belief only grows stronger each and every day because of the results we get for our clients.
Persistence isn’t about doing the same things over and over. It’s about wanting the same thing over and over.
(I believe our short term/irrational mind is constantly trying to chip away at what we really want because it’s easier to maintain the status quo. In other words: We either go after what we want or we try to convince ourselves that we don’t really want it.)
And something I’ve wanted for as long as I can remember – and something I’ll always want – is to live the happiest life I can, and to help others do the same.
One fact remains constant and it’s what drives me: When I eat healthfully and exercise, I feel better. In other words, happier, than when I don’t.
Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy cookies. I enjoy ice cream. I enjoy all sorts of indulgent food. And I indulge. (Never indulging isn’t the goal, nor is it sustainable. We teach our clients how to be fit and happy, not fit and miserable.)
But, I try to only indulge for the right reasons.
Which brings me to the question we (our short term / irrational mind) often ask ourselves, “Why am I not enjoying now?” in the face of temptation or any discomfort.
“YOLO!” (You Only Live Once!) “You work so hard!” “You deserve this!” “Just this one time!” These are types of things our short term / irrational mind loves to say.
Which circles us back to the…
Now versus later debate.
“Screw my Body Tutor, screw MBT, screw the Daily Feedback! I want to enjoy life now!”
That’s the devil on our shoulder talking to the Body Tutor. That’s our irrational, short term mind yelling at our rational, long term mind.
So try this thought on for size:
Why not enjoy life now, even if it means more health problems later?
Go for that cookie! Go for that ice cream! Go for the pizza! Whatever and whenever you want.
BUT! It seems to me, unless you are already doing heroin then you aren’t being true to your own philosophy. Why not enjoy a good high now? Who cares what happens later!?
Interestingly, all of us have always thought about later on, and not now.
Think about the first 20 or so years of our life. Everything we did in school was to set ourselves up for a better future.
The one downside of planning ahead is that we may enjoy today a tad less. (Wait…there’s always a twist!)
The upside is that our future might be a bit better! Maybe, A LOT better!
I’m not saying my thinking here is the best, but I think you get my point.
I don’t think it’s fair to call the “you only live once aka YOLO” approach any kind of philosophy unless you’re also quitting your job, doing heroin, living at your favorite restaurant, and only doing what feels the best every minute of your life.
Junkies have a philosophy. We have rationalizations.
Now there’s always a twist:
1. It turns out, we actually enjoy today more when we eat and exercise for the future. We’ve all had days when we do nothing but eat and watch TV – at least I have. I always feel better when I’m eating well and exercising. Always! I know you do too.
2. I’ve never done drugs. Had/have no desire. I’m not saying you should. It was just to make a point. Actually, as a public service announcement I’ll write it: don’t do drugs!
3. It turns out that when we live and plan for the future it’ll also make us happier today. Knowing we’re doing good for our future selves makes our current selves happier.
P.S. It’s amazing how powerful reframing something is. I see YOLO (You Only Live Once) as you You Oughta Look Out because you only live once!
P.P.S. I’ve thought and written a lot about the subject of happiness because I think that’s our end goal. You can read all of my posts on happiness on my other blog here.