One of the things I’ve found in my never-ending quest to understand what makes successful people successful is how much support successful people have.
(Along the way, I’ve encountered many (unfortunate) people that just can’t get over this fact. They feel that they have to do everything alone. Their egos get in the way among many other things but that’s a subject for a different email.)
As connected as the world is these days, it’s interesting how so many people feel disconnected.
The result: It causes many of us to live in our own heads.
The problem with that is when we get overwhelmed, or anxious or upset or disappointed or whatever – we don’t have anyone to share these feelings with.
So what do we do?
We eat these feelings…or at least we try to. Eating our negative emotions only amplifies them though. Emotional eating never makes us feel the way we really want to feel.
So what can we do?
Live Out Loud.
What does that mean? It means not keeping everything bottled up inside.
It means being a little more vulnerable. It means opening up a bit. It means sharing what’s really going on in our life with others. Not everything has to be perfect.
In fact, our most successful clients are the ones who share the most with us.
Even just writing out our thoughts and worries and fears or whatever we’re thinking on a piece of paper or on your Daily Report can help tremendously.
Just get some of them out of your head.
The less we live inside our head, the more we’ll be able to deal with reality and the less likely we’ll be to reach for food to suppress those feelings, emotions, etc. Everything impacts everything.
Bottom line: Live out loud!
P.S. While we’re at it, we might as well laugh out loud more often too! (Is that laughter as contagious for you as it is for me?)
Many of you tell me that you always feel hungry.
Let’s explore shall we?
First off, let’s ask ourselves this question while we’re thinking rationally: Is it possible to be hungry all the time?
Rationally, we know that it’s not possible to be hungry all the time. So what gives?
Well, most of the time it’s emotional hunger.
Real/physical hunger comes on gradually. Emotional hunger comes on suddenly. Real hunger can be satisfied with any food. Yes, that’s right – if an apple doesn’t satisfy our hunger – or if it doesn’t seem appealing, we’re not truly physically hungry.
Emotional hunger comes with a craving for a specific food. And, unfortunately, it’s usually not for apples. You know those times when you eat snack after snack and nothing seems to be hitting the spot? That’s because we’re not physically hungry. We’re emotionally hungry.
We’re hungry for something else…
When we get “hungry” it’s worth asking ourselves a few questions:
1. How long has it been since I’ve eaten?
2. What am I really hungry for?
3. Is anything bothering me?
4. If I had a magic ‘EASY’ button to help me with what I’m dealing with right now what would I use it for?
Perhaps, what we’re really hungry for is affection, assistance, rest, excitement, peace of mind…
Is it possible to have the need met by someone? How about by yourself?
Here’s the challenge: Many times we feel like our needs can’t or won’t get met – so food becomes our escape.
When we’re “hungry” that is a need we feel like we can actually control.
Sometimes, it can be very helpful to explore what it feels like to have the need go unmet by simply writing about it. Many clients have reported that this eases the discomfort tremendously.
This is also how we can find out what we might really want for ourselves because typically we’d shovel food into our mouth so we don’t have to experience or face the feelings.
Because when we’re not suppressing feelings, they’ll come to the surface, and we’ll be able to see what it is we really want.
Food is only love when it is used to feed our true physical hunger and we actually enjoy and relish and savor the experience. Otherwise, we’re using food to cover up feelings.
Feelings that are preventing us from becoming the person we really want to be.
How do you like them apples?
This is the tip of the iceberg when it comes to overcoming emotional eating. If you’d like to overcome emotional eating once and for all, join my proven program. I offer a 100% money-back guarantee because I know it works and I want to make it a no-brainer for you to give us a shot. What are you waiting for?