Happy Wednesday and happy almost 2010. What a great year to start fresh!
As I said yesterday, I’m not big on New Year’s Resolutions but I’m going to commit to two:
Being brutally honest with myself and I’m not going to allow myself to bite the hook.
Or, in mantra form, “Don’t bite the hook!”
These words aren’t mine (they are Pema Chodron’s) and while I haven’t read any of her work, they strike such a chord with me.
I think there’s two ways to become happier which I believe is why we’re all pursuing the things we do including weight loss and fitness.
1. To do more of what makes us feel good.
Meaning eat better, exercise more, sleep more, eat slower, eat more colors, call your loved ones more often, send thank you notes, treat people exactly how you’d want to be treated, connecting with another person, doing the right thing, offering someone your full attention, being gracious, helping someone, submitting your daily feedback at night and on and on.
(These are all the things we all know we should do but sometimes – and some more than others – don’t get around to because life gets in the way.)
2. To stop doing what makes us feel bad.
Meaning skipping exercise, not sleeping enough, eating what we feel like in the moment, not doing our daily feedback’s on time, waking up late, listening to our short term irrational self over our rational long term self, not being fully present, watching too much TV, comparing ourselves to others, procrastinating, wallowing, having a pity party, complaining, eating junk, not calling your loved ones and on and on.
(These are all the things that make us feel bad when we do them.)
The way I interpret, ‘Don’t bite the hook’ is to stop doing what you know will make you feel bad.
There are so many things we do big and small that take away from our happiness.
My resolution is to stop doing those things. To stop biting that ‘damn hook!’
Actually, I like my version better. It has a little more oomph to it.
‘Don’t bite that damn hook!’
So this coming year don’t focus so much on what you want to do, focus on what you want to do less of! Because if you stop doing what makes you unhappy, you’ll be pretty darn happy!
This will be my last daily inspiration of 2009. I will be in full force roaring to go on Monday January 4th and I hope you will be too.
If I don’t speak to you before tomorrow night, have a wonderful, fit, safe, and most importantly, happy new year!