My Body Tutor : No More Excuses

I hope you had a wonderful weekend!

I’ve long argued that you can tell a lot about a person by how much they tip.

I’ve long believed that having personal integrity is one of the keys to being truly happy. It’s the only way to live because it’s our sense of selves.

In short: Personal integrity is doing the right thing even when no one is looking.

I believe lying to yourself – and rationalizing things to yourself – that you normally wouldn’t do if other people were around – is the worst feeling in the entire world.

There is no worse feeling than lying to yourself. We all do it day in and day out. And it’s very easy to become numb to the feeling.

I don’t know one person who enjoys being overweight and out of shape.

I don’t know one person who doesn’t enjoy being healthy and in shape.

Clearly, there’s something going on here. If everyone wants to be healthy and in shape why isn’t everyone just that?

Because we constantly lie to ourselves.

Don’t feel bad. We all do it! (That’s why I started MBT because I was doing it and I hated how it made me feel.)

The difference between us and everyone else is we’re more honest with ourselves. We’re willing to raise our hands and say, “Hey, I need some help!”

The only way to solve a problem is to acknowledge you have one in the first place. Most people can’t do that. And even fewer people can admit they need some help.

That’s why so few people are ultra successful. Every mega-successful person I’ve ever met is extremely self-aware in what they excel at, and what they’re terrible at. The difference – they aren’t too proud to raise their hand and say, “Hey, I need some help!”

Here’s another key to happiness: when there is a disconnect between our desires and our actions, unhappiness ensues.

So that means if something is really important to you, say, losing weight but your actions don’t reflect that (most likely, because you’re rationalizing and justifying to yourself) that’s going to lead to unhappy feelings.

It’s a constant journey of listening to the Body Tutor on your shoulder versus the devil on your other.

No one knows how much you’re concentrating when you’re lifting weights. So you can easily go through the motions or you can go slow and steady and focus on the muscle you’re working each and every rep.

No one knows if you’re running as hard as you can. It’s very easy to fake it. Only you know how hard you’re running.

No one knows if you’re sneaking snacks when no one is looking. Sure. You don’t have to tell us…

But at the end of the day you have to face two mirrors. The mirror you look in every night when you brush your teeth and the mirror of the Daily Feedback.

If you don’t like what you see, start with personal integrity. You’ll be amazed at how you feel (and look) when you start doing the things you really want to do deep down.

In fact, I’m arguing that personal integrity is the key to your happiness. People who get plastic surgery are still, according to plenty of research, unhappy with how they look – and feel.

Inside out. That’s what it’s about. Doing what you *really* want to do. Being who you *really* want to be.