My Body Tutor : No More Excuses

Finally, the weather has broken in NY!

Speaking of broken, I get a lot of email from clients who tell me how their friends / coworkers and family members try to break their consistency and try to sabotage their efforts.

Ugh, I know. It’s frustrating.

But instead of fighting reality – let’s explore why this might happen. If we understand why, it’s a lot easier to deal with.

First, we have to understand human behavior – at its worst.

A study quoted in the book The Paradox of Choice gave participants hypothetical choices concerning status and asked for their preferences. For example, people were asked to choose between a) earning $50,000 a year with others earning $25,000 or b) earning twice as much, $100,000 a year but being surrounded by people earning $200,000.

Which would you choose?

Sadly, more than half the respondents chose the option that gave them the better relative position. That means earning $50,000 to $100,000 because at $50,000 they were earning more than others, while at $100,000 they were
earning less than others.

Although we’re hard wired to compare, it’s who we compare ourselves to that can make or break our happiness. Ideally, we wouldn’t compare ourselves to anyone. Really!

Besides, your status compared to other people isn’t how you’re doing.

Because we now know that many would prefer the better relative position, it’s easy to see why people would sabotage our efforts.

Let’s go even deeper…

Are you familiar with the term cognitive dissonance? This happens when we have two conflicting desires. For example, smoking. It is well known that smoking cigarettes can cause lung cancer yet every person I’ve ever met wants to live a long, healthy and fit life.

The uncomfortable tension caused by these two opposing ideas is known as dissonance.

As humans, we look to get rid of this uncomfortable feeling. This is known as dissonance reduction.

The only way to get rid of this uncomfortable feeling is by a) quitting smoking b) denying that people actually get sick from smoking or c) justifying and rationalizing.

For example, a smoker could rationalize their behavior by believing that few people get sick from smoking, it only happens to people who smoke more than they do, if smoking doesn’t kill them something else will, they’ll quit next year or they only live once and they deserve to smoke.

In essence, they either need to take action (quit smoking and get whatever help they need <----this is very hard!) or they need to make themselves feel better by rationalizing their smoking – which is what most people do ( Here is an opportunity for you to squash these fears.

Again, as sad as it is – it’s human nature. Fighting human nature is silly.

Instead, when we understand what’s going on around us, it makes it a lot easier to call it what it is and move on.

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