My Body Tutor : No More Excuses

Maybe it’s my fault.

Maybe I led you to believe it was easy when it wasn’t.

Maybe I made you think my body was already like that, and I didn’t build it in the kitchen and gym meal by meal, workout by workout, day by day.

Maybe I made you think that every day I live is easy – without any temptations.

That my body was built because I’m unemotional.

Maybe it’s my fault that you didn’t see that failure gave me strength.

That my pain, was my motivation.

Maybe I led you to believe that my body was a God given gift, and not something I worked for, every single day of my life.

Maybe I destroyed the game of getting healthy and fit.

Or maybe…you’re just making excuses.

This video (safe for work) inspired this post 100%.

I wonder if it inspires you as much as it does for me?

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He had a dream…

But so do you. So do ALL of us!

Here’s one of my favorite quotes:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”

Ohh, this hits me. It hits me real hard!

I’ll tell ya, it’s easier to sit on the couch and watch life on TV as opposed to actually living life. It’s much easier to remain the way we are, and hope and wish.

Why? Well, if we hope and wish, we don’t have to face any rejection or failure or discomfort.

We can just hope and wish!

Sure, that’s fun.

But it gets old fairly quickly.

The problem is, after a while, even the most non self-reflective person, will see through their own bull secretion. And that hurts.

BECAUSE when there is a disconnect between our desires and our actions, unhappiness ensues.

Deep down we all have a story. We all have desires. We all have wants.

We all have dreams.

And that’s my question to you:  What is your dream [fname]?

Sit with it for a few minutes. Sit with it for a few hours, if need be.

I’ll ask you again though.

What is your dream?

And, if we’re brutally honest with ourselves, we’re either working towards our dreams, or maybe, we’re burying our dreams…

Actually, here’s the question I REALLY want you to ask yourself:  What do I get to avoid in my life by carrying this extra weight?

Questions are powerful. The right questions can change the way you think, see and react to things for the rest of your life. Questions can change your perspective. Seeing things in a different light IS what a breakthrough is.

So, I’ll ask you one more time…what do YOU get to avoid in your life by carrying the extra weight?

Talk to me.

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I think all of us will agree that stress makes people eat. Or grief. Or celebration. Thankfully, these emotions are fairly easy to identify, and associate with overeating.

We’re all emotional eaters. Some more than others, of course, but we all eat emotionally.

Emotional eating is simply eating to change the way we feel. And many of us eat when we feel stressed or happy or sad.

But what happens when we’re nothing but a big tlgenad (<—-Win a prize! Read below.) ball of emotions and we suddenly feel crazy because we can’t identify what we’re feeling at all?

We hate our job. Our spouse is giving us the cold shoulder. We’re lonely. We got into a fight with a coworker. Our kids are being unappreciative. The laundry is piling up…

Unfortunately, there’s no escape button.

So, when we’re faced with emotions that we can’t pinpoint, food can seem like an easy way out. And while food will provide us an escape, sitting with this big ball of feelings – although uncomfortable – can help us sort through things so we can really see what our reality is.

When there’s a lot going on, the key is to sorta act like Vanilla Ice (wow, never thought I’d write that in a inspiration) and instead of, “Stopping, collaborating and listening” we want to slow down, look, listen and feel.

Because if we don’t, this overwhelming feeling can create so much “noise” in our head that the idea of going into what I call a ‘food trance’ seems so appealing.

When we’re tempted to overeat because we feel overwhelmed, it’s helpful that we:

1. Slow down

2. Talk to a friend

3. Write it out and get clarity

4. Wait before acting

5. Think things through

6. Take each stressful situation and give it a feeling. The more specific we can be, the better. Then —> think of three things we can do to help this situation.

While food gives us momentary escape (and this is why our short term, irrational mind is so drawn to this), it blocks us from reaching a long-term solution.

When we work to understand what we’re actually feeling, there is always so much clarity, insight and possibility, and that feels very exciting.

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The homo economicus view of human beings states that we think and choose unfailingly well, and we fit within the text book picture of economists.

According to economists we will choose what’s best for us.

HAHAH! Do they live in THIS world?

Clearly, this is not the case.

Research in psychology and behavioral economics proves we are very, very irrational creatures.

On one hand (I like to call this our long term self / rational mind) we know what’s best for us. We know we shouldn’t overeat, drink and smoke.

On the other hand (I like to call this our short term self / irrational mind) we’re highly impulsive and succumb to temptations all the time.

A temptation then is anything we consume more of when we’re hot/irrational/short sighted.

My definition of a temptation is anything that makes us think irrationally.

Here’s the challenge: Right now (5:07 EST on Friday), I feel pretty good. No cravings. I plan on going to the gym later on, and I feel focused and on point.

However, in 3 hours when I plan on going to the gym, I might feel tired. Being tired helps our irrational mind get louder. So does being hungry. So does being anxious.

Research has proven, and I’m supremely confident we don’t need research to prove this, we grossly underestimate how we’ll feel and act when we’re tempted – which in turn, wakes up the irrational part of our brain.

Right now, junk food isn’t in front of me. I’m thinking rationally. I’m good to go.

But, if you put my favorite treats in front of me (I’m not even going to write them) it would be an entirely different ball game.

A few lessons can be learned:

1. Don’t have any temptations near you. In your house, car, desk, whatever. Sounds obvious but it’s amazing how many people keep junk around.

2. Tell your loved ones / friends / etc., that you’re on a mission and that you’d appreciate if they didn’t bring you your favorite treats or keep them around.

3. Protect yourself from getting irrational. Remember: Hungry (eating every 3-4 hours), tired (sleeping, AND counterintuitively exercising – exercise GIVES us energy), and anxious (figuring out what’s REALLY bothering us, and choosing TO bother with it!) are the 3 killers.

4. Don’t go where there will be temptations! “Thanks, Captain Obvious!”

Sometimes we can’t control this but many times we can! A client just told me how she read an article about doughnuts this morning, and all day long she’s been thinking about doughnuts. Why do that to ourselves?

If we’ve decided that the junk at the party we’re going to isn’t worth it…why bother even looking?

Don’t underestimate how hot you can really get!

But see, right now, we’re cold so we’ll rationalize and say things like “Na, I’m good! I’ll be fine!”

Remember: #3 above, and let’s protect ourselves!

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