The all or nothing diet mentality


Do you have an all or nothing diet mentality? This post is for you.

We think…

“If I can’t be “perfect” why bother?!”

Soooo, we let one indulgence turn into a whole day (or week / weekend / month) of indulgences.

Let’s talk about the reason why us ‘dieters’ are notorious perfectionists.

If we understand why we are perfectionists, it’ll be much easier to stop the behavior.

The obvious answer:  because we don’t like to fail. So by creating unreasonable expectations it gives us an easy way out (aka a perfect rationalization) to stop taking action and quit the program before we can “fail”.

But here’s why most dieters really do this: because change is uncomfortable. (That’s also why most people never do actually change.)

By creating unreasonable expectations it gives us an easy way to remove the INEVITABLE discomfort we’re going to face. (This is why I’m such a big believer in accountability, support and having a system to monitor and track our progress. Because it makes the discomfort a lot more tolerable – or dare I say, comfortable. Yes, I’m biased. But I’ve seen what it can do first hand thousands of times over.)


I have to admit it.

My name is Adam Gilbert, and I am a recovering perfectionist.

And being a perfectionist is not a good thing.

I still have tendencies but I’m getting better…I’m progressing.

Having the attitude of, “I ate really well all day but I just had something that’s not healthy so now I’ll eat unhealthy for the rest of the day” is playing the all or nothing game.

If we play the all or nothing game, we always end up with nothing. Every single time. It’s why I don’t like making absolute statements such as, “I’ll never do xyz again!”

Instead, let’s focus on doing xyz LESS.

There is no such thing as perfection…

There is only progress.

And that’s what life is about. Moving forward, growing, and evolving.

In fact, being a perfectionist is a childlike way of living.

We are not children. We are adults in control. We are more powerful than we think. (Ugh, I know – I sound like a cheesy motivational speaker but it’s the truth.)

Being a perfectionist and having the “If I can’t be perfect, why bother?” attitude suggests that the only position worth having in life is being the winner.

No one likes playing games with a sore loser.

So, if we can’t be the winner, we shouldn’t bother playing the game?

That is a childlike way of thinking. It means that any small improvements in our weight, shape, mobility, focus, energy, and breathing are unimportant.

It means that any changes in the way we think, react, and act around food don’t count.

It means that any changes in the way we think about exercise don’t matter.

No one created the body of their dreams overnight.

Day by day. Meal by meal. Workout by workout. Improvement by improvement. Choice by choice. Daily Feedback by Daily Feedback.

“Progress. NOT perfection.” (This has become a mantra of mine.)

I repeat…

Let’s aim for progress. NOT perfektchin! 🙂


P.S. Want to overcome your ‘all or nothing’ diet mentality once and for all? Join my proven program. We’ve helped countless people change their mindset and relationship with food for good. This is why our clients are able to sustain the results they get.

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