Why be who you want to be is bad advice
If it acts like a duck all the time, it’s a duck. It doesn’t matter if the duck thinks it’s a dog.
It’s still a duck as far as the rest of us are concerned.
I find myself telling people to ‘BE’ who they want to be. I also find myself telling people to ‘ACT’ like they really want to act. (I say “really” as if our long term,
rational mind was always running the show – not our short term, irrational mind.)
The problem with ‘being’ though is it’s too ambiguous. What does ‘be’ actually mean? ‘Act’ on the other hand is actionable.
Doing is possible. But ‘being’?
We could spend our time wondering if what we say we are is really us. Or we could just act like that all of the time. Or most of the time. Or some of the time…
Instead of us saying I want to “BE” healthier and fitter, let’s focus on the actions that will make us healthier and fitter.
After all, it’s our consistent healthy actions that will make the changes happen.
Accountability works! (Great story about how accountability worked so well for one of our clients. Great before/after picture as well!)