How to finally commit to losing weight
Have you ever felt like you’re just not committed to your diet?
…Maybe this is something you’re struggling with right now.
If so, know that you’re not alone! At some point, we’ve all felt that way.
(In fact, I’ve said “I don’t feel committed” more times than I can count.)
That’s why we’re going to talk about how to turn that around. And by the time we’re finished, you’ll know exactly how to commit – once and for all!
But first, let’s start with:
The Problem With Commitment
There’s one thing about commitment that’s always bothered me…
It just doesn’t feel tangible. It’s this thing that’s always outside our control. A mystical force that comes and goes when it wants. We either feel committed or we don’t, and there’s no way to wrap our hands around it.
Here’s the way I think about it:
Have you ever watched a TV evangelist try to heal someone on-stage? It seems like what he’s doing works for everyone—except for that one guy.
But why not?
He showed up, he walked on stage, but nothing…
And when it doesn’t work for him, someone always says,
- “Well, he just didn’t *believe* enough” or
- “He just didn’t have enough *faith*.”
(Apologies for that reference by the way. I grew up in a tiny Kentucky town.)
Let’s use a more modern reference. 😉
Have you ever watched a motivational speaker?
His delivery is on fire! And everyone is so pumped they could literally burst out of the stadium and get to work. Their motivation is off the charts!
Two weeks later…
Check back on them and you’ll find 99% of them are right back where they started. They haven’t made any progress, and their motivation is nowhere to be found.
And what’s the very first thing someone says?
- “They just aren’t *committed*.” And
- “If they’d just commit, they’ll be successful.”
And to be completely honest; neither of those situations sit well with me.
It feels like snake oil, doesn’t it?!
Because we’re not talking about anything tangible. Commitment just seems to be this invisible force we assign blame to when we don’t feel like taking action.
Do you know what I mean?
Turn Commitment Into Something Concrete
Let’s turn commitment into something solid, something real, and most important – something that we can control!
Sound like a plan?!
To start, let’s:
Reframe What A Lack Of Commitment Means
Usually, when we say we don’t feel committed to losing weight, what we really mean is:
We don’t feel like doing this anymore. It’s too damn hard!
(Raise your hand if that one hits home. ???? It sure does for me.)
And just to be clear:
It’s not a problem of IF we want to lose weight. I wanted to lose weight for years. That’s not the problem at all.
The real reasons are that:
- We’ve lost focus on the reason *why* we started, and
- We’ve come to the realization that what we’re doing isn’t sustainable.
And when those two things happen, I can guarantee you that you’ll want to quit.
(BTW: I wish I could take credit for this insight. But research shows us these are two of the top contributing factors.)
How To Commit To Your Diet
Once we know why we don’t feel committed, we can fix it.
Solution #1: Focus On The Why
When we start any diet, we know exactly *why* we want to lose weight.
It’s because we want:
- To be more confident in our bodies,
- To walk up a flight of stairs without having to take a break,
- To get past those feeling of regret and guilt, or
- To be around for our families.
Whatever your reason for starting is, one thing is for sure: it is important!!
And here comes the problem: we start losing that sense of WHY.
What started out as:
- “This is something I have to do!”
- “I think I’m okay where I’m at.”
Now, let’s hit pause for a second.
Do you see what’s happening here?
We’re actually convincing ourselves that what we wanted is something we don’t need anymore!
But, are we being honest with ourselves?
- Do we not care about being around for our family?
- Do we not want to feel confident in how we look and feel?
And wait for it…
- Do we not want it anymore?
Of course not! We still want those things. They’re as important now as they were when we started.
But, here’s what happened:
We lost sight of how important those things actually are. We chose to push those priorities down and let other things take its place.
???? Research shows us THE most significant predictor of whether we’ll stick to our plan is: if we feel we need to stick with it!
Once the need is gone, so are we!
We need to turn the question “Why don’t I feel committed?” into “How can I stay focused on why this is important?”
Step 1: Write down why losing weight is important to you.
And to make things simple, just finish this sentence:
Losing weight and getting healthy is important to me because _______.
(Seriously, lay it out there. The more detail the better.)
Step 2: Once you’ve got it on paper or on your phone: Read it!
- Read it today, tomorrow, the next day, the day after that. And every day after.
- Post it on your computer, on your refrigerator, on the mirror.
- Constantly remind yourself why you’re in this and why it’s important.
Solution #2. Make Your Plan Sustainable.
Sustainable = when we’re confident we can do the actions it takes to lose weight.
Unsustainable = when we have zero confidence we can stick to the plan.
Here’s what I mean:
Before I started MBT:
- I knew I couldn’t cook every meal and exercise for an hour a day. I just didn’t have time, and
- I knew I didn’t like vegetables. Other than lettuce, everything else was off the table.
And that’s why (for me) I knew every other diet plan was completely unsustainable.
But with MBT:
- No one asked me to cook every meal.
- No one tried to force me to eat vegetables.
They helped me come up with a plan that was sustainable.
See the difference? It makes a world of difference, doesn’t it?
Now, here’s the point I’m getting to:
When we start to “feel” uncommitted, that’s our cue to make it sustainable.
So my question to you is,
“How confident do you feel in what you’re doing right now?”
If it’s not something you can stick with, then what is?
- Is it eating out one less meal a day?
- Maybe it’s dropping one soda with dinner?
- How about taking a walk around the block instead of running on the treadmill for an hour?
*Word Of Caution*
I realize that approach is easy to dismiss when we’re coming from an “all-or-nothing” mindset.
(I know because I’ve been there!)
I would say things like:
- “If I’m only eating out one less time today, then what’s the point of even trying?”
- “One less soda isn’t going to do anything.”
- “How is switching from regular sugar to coconut sugar going to help. I’ve got 40 pounds to lose.”
???? Do you see how “all-or-nothing” thinking slams the door on progress?
We’ve got to avoid the “I’m all in or all out” mindset!
- It’s about progress, not perfection.
- It’s about sustainability, not setting ourselves up for failure.
Call To Action
We’ve talked about the two BIG barriers to feeling committed:
- Losing sight of why we started, and
- Feeling that what we’re doing isn’t sustainable.
And we talked about how to get past those.
The most important part is moving from knowledge to action.
So here’s what I want to know:
- What ideas do you have to keep your WHY in the front of our minds, and
- What can you do today to make this program one that you stay committed to?